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Tell Your Cat I Said...
Empathetic, friendly, and informative grief and end-of-life advice for pets...and people too.

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23
Sep
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My daughter is dying. How do I tell her brother?

I try to keep my children informed and involved about everything in our lives, but I'm struggling with how to tell my five-year-old that his sister is entering hospice.
8 min read
16
Sep
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How much pain is too much? And when has it gone on too long?

Cats are notorious for hiding their pain. How am I supposed to know when it's no longer possible to keep my cat comfortable and living his best life?
7 min read
09
Sep
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How do I get my coworker to shut up about my dog's cancer treatment?

I will absolutely lose it if my coworker tells me to cure my chihuahua's cancer with herbs and crystals one more time.
6 min read
02
Sep
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How do I handle grieving for a stranger?

I'm literally carrying someone else's heart. Should I reach out to my donor's family to thank them? And how can I possibly write that letter?
5 min read
26
Aug
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Cleaning up the social media graveyard

Half of us want to leave my uncle's social media up as a memorial. The other half want to take it down.
5 min read
19
Aug
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What, if anything, should I tell my cat's prior guardian about a terminal diagnosis?

I've loved and cared for my cat for seven years. I'm afraid of an awkward conversation if I tell his prior guardian that he's dying.
5 min read
12
Aug
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How do I talk about grieving my girlfriend when not everyone knows I'm poly?

Finding language that encompasses the complexity of our lives is always challenging, but in grief, it can feel overwhelming.
7 min read
05
Aug
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What should I do if the worst happens to my son's dog while he's away at college?

My son is going to college and leaving his senior dog behind. I'm terrified that I might have to make a really hard choice without him.
7 min read
29
Jul
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Help! I need something to read!

Nine books about death and grief—that aren't here to tell you how to get over it—to add to your bookshelf.
4 min read
22
Jul
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Would I be letting my cat down if I didn't stay in the room for her euthanasia?

Being present, or not, at euthanasia can be a tough decision, but you should know you have a lot of options.
9 min read